Cuffing season is a period of time during the colder months (usually begins late October and ends beginning of April) where teens and young adults seek serious relationships or intimate friendships with a significant other. Due to the decrease in temperature, many people in this age group do not go out has often and are generally restricted to prolonged indoor activity. People who are usually single and promiscuous tend to become lonely and seek companionship or seek to be “cuffed”.
After the winter months end and the sun begins to come out showing signs of a promising summer, cuffing season ends. When the season ends many young people struggle to break ties with their significant other, so in this post I have develop 4 easy steps to effectively breakup with a significant other at the end of cuffing season.
When cuffing season ends, pre-season begins. What that means is you need to start building a team of individuals for potential summer flings (also known as your summer league). However, before you begin summer league try-outs, YOU MUST BE UNCUFFED.
Steps to effectively breakup with someone after cuffing season.
Before I list the steps, the most important thing to know is that the goal of the break up is NOT to burn bridges or completely sever ties with the person you’ve been intimate with after so many months. The goal is to keep that person as friend in order to make recruitment easier for the next cuffing season.
So with that in mind let’s begin…
- Get in contact with your significant other. Call, text, dm, etc. and tell them you want to talk to them. Set up a face-to-face meeting with that individual. THIS IS IMPORTANT. Face-to-face is the best way to deliver a breakup, it shows that you are sincere and value the time that you guys shared. Avoid romantic settings to avoid giving mixed messages. If face-to-face contact is not available, Facetime, Skype, Oovoo, or any other video chat app is acceptable. Seeing the sincerity in your nonverbal behavior will help deliver the message more effectively.
- Be prepared. I actually can’t stress this enough. You must go in with a clear and concise plan of action or you will fail. If you have developed feelings for this person or vice versa, you’re significant other will try to persuade you to stay in the relationship. Keep your eye on the prize.
- Deliver the message. Be honest. Tell them you no longer want to be in a relationship with them because you want to be able to enjoy the sins of summer without guilt. Tell you appreciate the time spent together and want to keep them as a close friend because you care about them, but don’t want to hurt them later due to your inevitable, future promiscuous intentions. Explain you will keep in contact with them in order to keep that strong friendship.
- Leave and contact them later. After you deliver the message, have an exit plan. If you’ve ever tried to breakup with someone before, you know the conversation could last for hours, even days. Say you have an event you can’t be late for or a parent is in need. Say what you need to say to get out of there. Contact them a few days later to insure that the damage is not detrimental to the relationship. After that you can contact them periodically throughout the summer months in order to maintain that friendship until the next cuffing season.
Hopefully these steps will help guide you through an effective cuffing season breakup. I wish you the best during preseason and summer league!
If you haven’t already, check out my video on breaking up after cuffing season.
Disclaimer: Cuffing season not a real thing. Relationships should be built on compatibility and emotions not the weather. It’s like Santa Claus or the Easter bunny, it’s fun when you’re young but eventually you should grow up.